A few months ago his ex-girlfriend (not the one he is now 'in love' with a different one--the one I knew about that he dated just before me) wanted to friend him on Facebook and I told him that I wasn't comfortable with that. He kind of cleared up how would I feel if he was contacting just old friends and I said that was fine, becuase that is what I thought he was doing and what facebook is about, you know?
Anyway, then he said "I mean, if you were talking to Terry it wouldn't bother me" Which I thought was odd, and I figured he said it would bother him and I misheard him. Because why would he be ok with me talking to someone I adored for 2 years and thought I was in love with at the time? Now it occurs to me that he had already been having his emotional affair with Shannon for 2-3 months at the time. And what makes it funny (instead of sad--because maybe I could have asked him to clarify and maybe we could have stopped this thing before he went out there to see her and felt he couldn't live without her) is that I said something like "oh, yeah, I'm sure his wife would like that" And he said "He's married now?" And he actually looked disappointed. And I took it for confusion...like he had forgotten and was confused that he didn't remember this bit of information.
You know what?
I think he was trying to pawn me off on T! I think he was hoping I would form an attachment like he was forming and so then he wouldn't have to feel guilty or worry about me!
Isn't that hilarious?
Isn't that just stab-you-in-the-back-spit-in-your-face-hilarious?
Ok, it sounds like I'm more bitter about that than I really am.
Because, although it is sad, I do think it is actually funny, too.
Maybe because I see the folly in his thought processes.
Maybe you can see the humor in it, too?