Monday, August 10, 2009

LIVID

I am not sure what this means, but my father in law is friends with Shannon on Facebook.
I feel so betrayed. I mean, C'MON!!!

Seriously. I'm shaking...

18 comments:

The Johnson Family said...

Hey Girl! just sent you a message on fb. I wonder if Beloved has access to his dad's fb and using that as another way of communication between the two of them??? So sorry!!

Cameo said...

That is just unbelievable. You should message your FIL, ask him why he is befriending the woman your husband is cheating on you with.

The Redhead Riter said...

I stopped by to see how you were doing today...not so good I see. You will feel betrayed and hurt...like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. That is what losing someone you love feels like...but...

Did you call a therapist?

Remember: You can only control one person...yourself. You can not control circumstances or other people. Please call a psychologist. It will not get easier by looking at your father-in-laws friends on Facebook.

If you are LDS as your title implies, have you talked to your Bishop? Can't he recommend a therapist?

In the mean time, write everything you feel, but if you can help it, don't let your ex read it. So if he knows about this blog, it wouldn't be the best place to write.

trashly said...

ok i'm out of the closet! hahaha and i was looking at some pics and saw a pic of what i thought was a girl and thought was me in 9th grade...yeah it was a dude! i would like to blame my mother! hahaha

and i talked to your father-in-law's dad (and he felt like that was a 'chicken____' thing to do.)
i'm sorry he did that. it makes me so irritated just thinkin about it. here's hoping auntie can do some good with him. he always listens to her. LUB YOU!

Housewife Savant said...

Everybody's got advice. I got nothing.
I can't imagine handling so many of the things you've dealt with since the beginning of June.
My arsenal of wisdom often includes swear words, rabbit punching, and/or stabbing. That's no good at a time when prison isn't an option. (You said you don't fancy it - not every girl does. I respect that.)
Hang in there.

People who visit your blog to mention unicorns probably think I'M a terrible pal for offering such inane drivel. Eh.

mama-face said...

WHA.....?

Gigi-I looked her up. That is way creepy of me, but come on...there is some serious denial going on all around.

And I hate that you are in the middle of the firestorm and you know that and I am trying to be kind and loving about it, and you know that...

gah...I don't even know what to say. Other than I love you and all of us love you and come stay with us some more. You are ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS welcome. You know that.

MochaTrina@Me So Hongry... said...

I'm with Housewife Savant on this. I've got nothing. A round house kick to her face would make me feel better. See...your better than me. I just wouldn't know how to handle this. That's probably why I'm still kind of single. I keep my guard up so I DON'T have to round house kick someone in the face. Keep your head up. All I have to say is...damn Facebook!

Anonymous said...

GiGi,
I don't read a lot of blogs but stumbled across yours a while ago. I have wanted to comment several times, but have kept my mouth shut.
I was in your exact same situation last year and thought that I could share a few thoughts with you. However it might be kind of long and I don't want to put it in a public forum. I am also a man, so this would be coming from a different perspective.
I created the email imnotgivinguponyou@yahoo.com so if you would like to hear my experiences and see if they can help you just email me and I will respond. Good luck, praying for you and your husband.

MiMi said...

Whoa, I really wanna go snooping on FB since mama-face did, but I.KNOW.NOTHING. about real names! Dang.
Anyway, I don't know what to say about that crap either. Crap. That's all I know.
Hey, girly, would you mind sending me your house address?? I want to send you something and I don't have your address. I swear, I won't sell it to outside marketers or anything. :) Or get you hooked up with porn stuff. :/
Macey

@eloh said...

Divorced three times here....I got nothin'...

I do wish I had stayed and fought my MIL's craziness for my first husband, but, I don't think I would still be alive for several reasons, if I had stayed. The next two husbands aren't even worth talking about.

wonder woman said...

Were they friends before or after all this started? I hope he's not the way they found each other....

Also, maybe he's trying to keep tabs on her. As a friend of both her and Beloved, he can see all the "public" conversations they have. (I have this compulsion to try to see both sides of a story.)

It's still a crappy thing to have happen. I don't think there's anything wrong with an innocent "Out of curiosity, why are you friends with her?" type message to FIL.

Anonymous said...

Hi, I am you BFF sister-in-law (her hubby's sister, in Illinois), Denise, and I have been following your blog for awhile. I am just here to say I'm sorry that you are going through this. Keep the end result in mind ... eternity. I can't even begin to understand what you are going through so I won't pretend. But I feel for you and am so sorry. I teach primary as well and I keep your situation in mind when I talk to the kids about how real Satan is and that he will do everything he can to destroy the family. Hang in there, keep your faith, and know that there are many people who love you ... I love you, Sister, and I will continually pray for you.

Karen said...

There's just nothing good that can be said about this.

Other than that there are plenty of people here that are pulling for you.

Courtney said...

I'm definitely one of the lurkers you were talking about...I found your blog and I don't have any advice, just that what I can gather from this blog, you are a smart, strong, AMAZING woman with lots of people loving you and on your side. You're going to make it through this. I'm sending you lots of love and happiness!! Take care, lady!

Sandi said...

Well, girl, I was just made aware of this situation yesterday.

This sucks.

I will tell you that I think you're absolutely amazing. And though I have ALWAYS thought that about you, I have never respected you more than now.

I love your snark, your compassion, and your courage.

I love YOU.

trashly said...

ok i realized in my earlier comment i was referring to FIL as chicken shit. lol ...sorry there's a nickname in there that goes with chicken...i didn't mean to say Grandpa call him chicken shit... sorry!!! he didn't he just said it was a FIL thing to do. that he wasn't suprised. so if anyone thought that then sorry!! i just thought i'd clarify. :)

Gigi said...

LOL! Trashly, that is so funny! I must admit that I was s-h-o-c-k-e-d to hear that G'pa would use such language. I totally forgot about the Chicken nickname for FIL! Ha ha! Woah.

Penelope said...

if his dad is friendly with his mistress or helping him connect to her, then i guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree in terms of character. why would he do such a thing?